Learn to beat your fears in 14 steps
What are you afraid of? Is there something keeping from growing and having success?
Here you’ll find some thoughts on how to go through your fears a little easier.
In essence, every success of your life is actually a success of your stubbornness. Your ability to define what you want, to embark on a realization of your thoughts, to overcome obstacles and difficulties is the main reason for your victories.
The other side of persistence is courage.
Perhaps the most serious challenge is to overcome fear and hence the development of fearlessness.
Winston Churchill once said: “Courage is quite rightly considered to be the most important dignity because it depends on all other merits.”
Fear & Self-Discipline
1. Conquer Your Fear
Fear has been and remains the greatest enemy of humanity.
When Franklin D. Roosevelt said that, “the only thing we must fear is fear itself,” he meant that the very feeling of fear is what causes rather stress and irresistible anxiety in our country, and not the very scary object of reality.
If we are able to develop courage and unwavering self-confidence, a world with new opportunities opens. Just think what your dreams and deeds would be if you were not afraid of anything in this world.
2. You Have The Ability To Learn Everything Needed
As a matter of fact, courage can be absorbed – just like anything else.
That is why you need to work on yourself, while overcoming fear and planting in your personality a certainty that will allow you to overcome the inevitable falls fueled by fate.
Journalist Ann Landers notes:
“If they asked me to give people some very important advice, I would say the following: Accept the problems as an inalienable part of life and meet them with a raised head. Watch them straight in the eyes and tell them that you are stronger than them.”
3. The Causes And Remedies For Fear
The first stage in overcoming fear is a sober look at the factors that created it.
As is known, the underlying causes of fear lie in childhood. For example, parents’ destructive criticism may be the basis for the fear of failure and the fear of disapproval and rejection.
It is here that the root causes of our fear of losing money, time or good attitude to others are hidden . Thus, we become too sensitive to the opinion and criticism of others, to such an extent that sometimes we fear not to do anything that would cause their disapproval.
In this way, these fears make us hesitant and do not allow us to act constructively. We develop the propensity to invent prepositions to avoid taking decisive action. And finally we find ourselves in a closed circle: “I have to do what I am, but I can’t; I can’t, but I still have to do it. ” And so we run into a hopeless cycle.
4. Fear And Ignorance Go Side By Side
Fear may arise from ignorance. When we have little information, we can’t be sure of the results of our own actions. Ignorance makes us frightened by the changes, from the unknown and avoiding the new and the different.
The opposite is true.
Disposing of information and experience in one area or another fills us with confidence and courage. There are spheres in which you have nothing to fear because you have reached a certain level of mastery. Undoubtedly with knowledge and experience, you’re assured of your ability to deal with every situation and every problem. Thus, get informed – this means confidence and lack of fear!
5. Fatigue Also Makes Us Cowardly
When we are tired or feel bad, we are significantly more prone to doubts and worries than when we are filled with cheerfulness and vigor.
You can radically change your attitude by simply falling asleep, or taking a break if you need it, which will allow you to recover your strength.
Relaxation and unloading contribute to determination and confidence no less than other factors.
6. Fear Is Inherent In Everyone
If someone tells you that there is nothing to be afraid of, there are two possibilities – they’re attempting to deceive you or themselves. In reality, all people are afraid of something. The excitement of a person about his physical, emotional and financial condition is natural. A brave person is not the one who is not afraid.
Mark Twain didn’t accidentally write: “Courage is not the absence of fear, but the resistance of fear, the conquest of fear.”
As has been noted, it’s not whether you are and aren’t afraid, because we are all afraid. The important thing is how you perceive the fear. The brave one keeps going ahead at he cost of everything.
Subsequently, when you resist fear and move against what you’re afraid of, your fears gradually disappear, and your confidence and self-esteem grow.
But if you try to hide from your fear, escape and as if an ostrich burying its head in the sand, it’ll begin to dictate your life. And the stronger the fear grows, the weaker become your confidence, self-respect and self-worth.
This is why actor Glen Ford said:
“If you do not do what you fear, fear will subordinate and govern your whole life.”
7. Analyze Your Fears
Once we identify the fear-causing factors in ourselves, the next step is to sit down and calmly and objectively analyze our concerns.
At the top of a sheet of paper, write the question: “What do I fear?” Start compiling a list of all your fears, recording in a row everything that causes you anxiety and anxiety.
Some people, dominated by the fear of failure, spend a lot of energy, justifying or hiding their mistakes. They cannot resign to the thought of a possible failure. Others are so sensitive to the opinion of others that they seem totally incapable of making any independent decisions or decisions. If they are convinced that someone does not approve of their choice, they do not take any action.
8. Graduate Your Fears
Make a list of fears that can have a negative impact on your thinking and behavior and rank them in order of importance.
The fear of what has the most impact on your way of thinking and obstructs your way to the goal? And what’s your next fear in importance? Once you have the dominant fear, answer your three questions:
How does this fear hinder me?
How could he help me in the future or have helped me in the past?
What will I gain if I get rid of him?
9. Practice Leads To The Reinforcing Of Habits
If you make a certain kind of action, they will enter your dynamic stereotype. If you repeat the same action again and again, it will eventually become a habit. You will develop courage if you act courageously when circumstances require it.
It is necessary to make the first step. This step is the most complex. Without the courage you will never choose to try something new or different from what you have done before, you will not be able to get out of the routine of mediocrity.
Professor Robert Ronald of Babson College, tutoring entrepreneurship, tracked the further fate of his students and found that 10% of them founded their own companies and it was successful! He managed to recognize a common quality for everyone – their passionate desire to have their own business, and not just to talk about it without the specific steps that were typical of others.
– If you have a business idea but are not sure whether it really works, try creating a working business plan with the help of the practical guide.
10. Have The Courage To Start
Robert Ronald introduces the “corridor principle”:
Successful people move right towards their goal as a long corridor, and new and new doors are opened before them, which would be left unnoticed by them if they were in one place.
It turns out that most of the college graduates, instead of taking advantage of the knowledge gained in it, are waiting for things to be arranged on their own, without any initial steps on their part. They do not want to enter the unknown corridor without the assurance that it will be successful. In such an approach, this simply does not happen!
11. The Future Belongs To Those Who Take Risks
The future belongs to those who are not afraid to risk, not to those who hide their heads in the sand. There are so many positive examples of this!
Life in a sense is perverse: The more you seek security and stability in it, the less you find it. Conversely, the more you tend to try new and new opportunities, the more likely you are to find the craving for reliability.
When you feel in captivity in fear or anxiety and need to mobilize all your courage to resist difficulties and overcome obstacles, switch your attention to your goals.
Start mentally drawing the image of the person you want to be!
The feeling of fear is not anything fateful, as long as you are able to oppose his belief in his own powers. Mastering fear and stimulating courage are key prerequisites for a happy and successful life.
If you vigorously pursue your desire to develop courage and determination, the time will come when fear will no longer play a decisive role in your life.
Then you will be able to set serious goals with the confidence that you will achieve them, and you will be able to confidently meet every situation. And the key to this is the courage.
12. Learn From The Masters
If you are presented with a chance to communicate with a successful person who is willing to reveal the secrets of your success, do you think that would help you? And if you have an opportunity to interact with more people?
If you do not have the opportunity to meet face-to-face with such individuals, there are hundreds of books written by proven and successful people about the way they go their way. You can meet them on the pages of their works as long as you like.
13. Action Is Everything
You will probably say that such communications or reading books by successful people will be of unparalleled benefit to you. However, the truth is that no advice, no matter how valuable it is, will bring you measurable benefits until you begin to apply it in practice. The same applies to this article. What if you read it, and then do nothing essential?
If only big business was enough, then your success would be 200% secure. Bookstores are full of books that give advice and ideas in this direction. But any such advice gains value only when you start acting purposefully.
The most important question here is: “Will I do what I have decided to do?”
14. The Key Is In Self-Discipline
The most important prerequisite for success is self-discipline, that is, the inner ability based on the power of your spirit and character, to do what is necessary, whether you like it or not.
The power of character is the ability of one’s personality to lead his thoughts to the end, even when his initial enthusiasm is over. It’s about whether you can mobilize and pay the price you need until you reach the end goal.
Your self-discipline is needed to set goals and develop plans to achieve them. You will also need it for the regular revision of the plans and their updating in case of new information.
Self-discipline will help you rationally use the time by concentrating on the most important task at the moment. Without self-discipline, you will not be able to constantly improve yourself by acquiring new knowledge and raising your professionalism.
Self-discipline is also necessary for people and the economy of money and the distribution of finance so that it will reach financial independence over time.
Without it, it cannot focus on its goals and dreams, cannot fight its fears and doubts, cannot positively and constructively react to the emerging difficulties on the road.
Self-Discipline In Action:
Perhaps the brightest manifestation of self-discipline is the presence of an irresistible stubbornness without a hesitation in a difficult situation. It is this self-discipline in action and the true criterion of human nature.
Whenever you show solidity in frustrating circumstances, you are building your sustainability, elevating your self-respect to a new degree, and filling with greater determination – that iron quality that will help you overcome the obstacles that stand on everyone’s way of life.